✨You’re strong (for a girl).
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That’s a comment I got recently and my face went straight into the palm of my hand.🤦♀️
Not only because we all clearly know there are differences between men and women, but because it goes much deeper into a mindset around backhanded compliments.
This will be really helpful for you in the midst of this holiday season with all those fam reunions, so listen up.🙃
👎Think about all the other types of backhanded compliments people so frequently give:
🙄You look great (for your age).
🤫You look great (for just having a kid x months ago).
🐂💩You’re strong (for a girl).
We don’t have to qualify someone’s looks, success, or greatness with caveats.
While it might not be intentional, those caveat statements (for a girl, for your age, etc) can be perceived as condescending and dampen the shine on that person’s accomplishments.
💡Try these instead:
✔️You look great.
✔️You are smart.
✔️You are strong.
💛No caveats needed.
#thedailykelsey