“How can I learn self love?”
It’s a question I get a lot and I won’t pretend to have all the answers. What I do know is what happened to me.
I became my most confident and happiest version of me when I started a fitness routine. At first, I equated my newfound self love with my appearance, with losing weight and becoming more fit. The two were definitely aligned, but I had it ALL WRONG.
I didn’t start to love myself because I liked the way I looked. I know this because even after I slowed down and started to gain a bit more comfy weight ... my self love didn’t falter.
When I fell pregnant and gained 50+ lbs and did NOT, I admit, feel comfortable in my body or the way I looked ... my self love didn’t falter.
And now, in my postpartum state, with extra weight and loose skin and a wrinkly tummy ... my self love hasn’t faltered.
So I KNOW, I know, it is not tied to my appearance. I know I can love myself through all of body’s fluctuations and phases.
What I believe happened, and I’ve heard this theory reinforced by actual experts, is that I began to TRUST myself.
I made a promise to myself and I kept it.
Consider any relationship you have with someone you have grown to love. When you first met them, you didn’t love them instantly. It took time, and more importantly, it took many promises and commitments that were KEPT, for you to realise you could trust that person.
Trust them with your heart. Trust them with your love.
If you want to love yourself, make yourself a promise, and KEEP IT.
For me that was committing to an exercise program, and ultimately a total lifestyle shift, and following through. It was setting goals and achieving them. I made a promise to myself, I kept it, and I began, without really knowing it, to believe it myself. To like myself. And then, to fall in love with myself.
It doesn’t have to be fitness. It doesn’t have to have anything at all to do with your body.
Just make a promise, and don’t you dare break it.
Fall in love with yourself. It’s the most important relationship you will ever be in ❤️
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