?•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•=•-=•? When you make a decision to have a child you're also making the decision to take responsibility for that child. You don't abandon your obligation as a parent because you have "other plans". It isn't a willingness to abandon them during inclimate weather for a tryst that shouldn't be occurring. It isn't being jealous of them or the time they spend with the other parent and it isn't holding the children hostage to get what you want out of the other parent. They are living, breathing, feeling human beings who once exposed to trauma will be affected for the rest of their lives. Children shouldn't have to sacrifice so that you can have the life that you want. You make sacrifices so your children can have the life that they deserve. Unfortunately not everyone thinks like this. Their other plans become more and more important and eventually it will bite them but till then the child is the one suffering.